Here are the three community requests and the responses I received – thank you to those of you contributing to the discussion!

Request #1: Some suggestions on how to respond to family/friends who question the inconsistencies of our symptoms (for example, “You were fine a half hour ago!”)

A few people recommended The Spoon Theory, a familiar tool using something tangible to reflect a measurement of how much energy it takes to get through a day.  Although not everyone with lupus experiences challenges with fatigue, using spoons (or I’ve also heard people use other things like tooth picks) is a good way to express loss that others can relate to.

On a similar note, I recently learned of a communication tool that a dear friend, and organizer for the Portland-area Fibromyalgia/CFS support group , Tamara uses to give her husband a signal for the day regarding how she’s feeling.  When her clear jar is full of the polished pieces of glass, she’s doing great.  As the day goes on, she removes pieces as needed and, without saying a word, he ‘sees’ where she is at a given time.  What makes this a wonderful way of communicating is that they both developed this language together and by taking out the need to exchange words taxes her less and strengthens their relationship more. Co-creating a communication tool that speaks clearly and compassionately is something maybe to ask your friends to take part in.

Of course, there is the standard communication tool of “I feel…” messages, as I was reminded by a graduate of the Living Well with Chronic Conditions workshop, Laurie.  These messages, with practice, help take some of the defensiveness out of a situation by focusing more on how we feel or the concerns that we have when something is said or done.  In the situation that prompted this question here, the member who sent me the email felt defensive immediately when her sister-in-law couldn’t understand what happened within a half hour that changed her energy levels.  She snapped back and wished that she had a better, and cleverer, response that wouldn’t have led to hurt feelings all around.  Here is an example of how a conversation might happen and how using these types of messages can make the same conversation go a little better for everyone:

Without an “I” message –

Sister-in-law: “You were fine a half hour ago!”

MLWT member: “So, what are you saying? That I’m making it up? Thanks for the compassion…”

With an “I” message –

Sister-in-law: “You were fine a half hour ago!”

MLWT member: “I feel like I need to defend myself when I can’t explain how much my body puts me through.  I really want to figure out a way of telling you how I feel so that we could understand each other better.”

The key here is that the MLWT member focuses on what she is feeling, thinking and wanting without using those dreaded “You” messages that feel great in spewing to others, but cause emotions to get away from us… leading to defensiveness towards everyone.  Whether the sister-in-law commits herself to actually help figure out a way to better communicate is out of the MLWT member’s hands.  First, and foremost, the MLWT member gets what is on her mind off her chest and maintains a sense of calm (managing stress) while coming up with an idea to ‘fix’ the situation (proactive and constructive). These messages may not feel very natural at first, but taking that extra minute to focus on taking care of you gives more opportunity for positive results than there would be otherwise. 

Finally, MLWT member, Janice, simply stated:  “Tell her to just smile and nod – people will never really understand what we’re going through.”  Good point, Janice.

Request #2:  Kitchen products that have good grips and are light weight

Here are some responses I received to this MLWT member request:

-OXO products

-Kitchen Kaboodle sometimes has great little tools, or any senior living source (Gladys)

-Arthritis Foundation website sometimes mentions products (Laurie)

Anyone else?

Request #3:  Any books that help mothers be supportive to their children who are struggling with chronic health challenges (preferably non-clinical)

I’m still compiling, but Universityof Michigan offers a great website that covers some really important points that you may be interested in.  It isn’t easy to find sources covering illnesses like lupus or fibromyalgia, but consider seeking out books and websites that cover areas like cancer (LOTS of books available).  Even terminal or hospice sources that discuss caretaking for communication tips. Of course, the National Lupus Foundation is always open to hearing your requests, offers topics like this in their webinars and has a book recommendation list  you may want to check out.

If you’re on Twitter and have some additional resource ideas, use #CIbook within your tweet and I’ll find it!  You are more than welcome to share them here, as well.

The Winter/Spring MLWT Musings enewsletter will be out in late February, so if you have any thing you want to put out there to the community members to help problem solve an issue, email me here and I’ll get it into the next edition.

I offer both in-person and online Discovery Sessions that focus on wellness – not just illness, but the overall concept of health as “…a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being.” (Straub, 2012)  If someone wants to look at their relationships, their work, their feelings about their health challenges, or simply wanting to open up to learning more about what is going on “inside”, the Discovery Sessions are a quick, easy and non-therapeutic (meaning they aren’t therapy) activity to tap into your intuition.

For PFAM, I did a session myself on addressing the theme on using images to ‘scrapbook’ my illness.  Below, you will see what you would do on an online Discovery Session with me.  The sessions only allow five minutes to put together the collage – that is important.  We want to tap into our intuition and choose images before we have a chance to block them out or think too much about them by bringing in our feelings, perceptions, concerns and so forth.  Every session begins with a prompt we come up with when talking before hand and, for mine today, I chose “How do I see my illness?”

Here’s what I came up with:

My notes that I took during the session:

“This image set offers me more image-reference rather than explicit photos, which made this session more reflective. Lots of blues, surprisingly more serene while doing it and images chosen imply it.

• Action refers to work, which is constant with C.I.
• Middle image is ripe tomatoes, I choose to represent setting seed.
• Smallest image of hospital bed acts as a constant reminder that floats above everything.
• Image showing invisible illness among visible social ties.
• Are those ruins or indications that over time I’ve been worn, but still here to be marveled at in terms of achievements?
• The colorful salad represents both nutrition, that I am what I eat, but also the ingredients I need to constantly choose to make my life the healthiest it can be.
• The images of the swirling circles, of course, represents my immune system that is involved with the work I must do. It interacts with the level of visibility I choose to have and the seeds I plant every day for myself and those around me.
• Notice the unintentional direction that seems to swirl towards the hospital bed, but is distracted from reaching it due to the other images it overlaps. Tells me I still can make a difference in my overall health direction.”

 (C.I.= chronic illness)

Again, these sessions aren’t therapy, even though they have therapeutic properties.  I am a wellness facilitator, which simply means I organize the setting and coordinate the process, but the participant – you – choose the image meanings, define the connections, and take from it what you want to use.  My role is in simply asking the questions without any expectations or judgment.  I supply the momentum to assist you in exploring what you want to learn from you yourself. Who better to answer your own questions?

I am offering these one to one-half hour online sessions for only $15 throughout December and January,  because I want anyone to have a chance to take part.  It is a wonderful, self-care opportunity to play and learn, without concerns of lacking ‘creativity’.  We didn’t worry about that when we made our first collage in grade school, so why stress out about it now that we are all grown up?  That need to explore is still within us, but we’ve had many years to build up our barriers and walls of fear.  If you have ever spent time with grandchildren or your own children and loved how carefree they are when creating, that is what these sessions can offer you, too.

This is the season for joy~ and online Discovery Sessions are just one more opportunity to create some for yourself (or a friend) who could use a little lightness in their day.

In case you don’t already know, I simply cannot get myself to sit still and meditate.  The whole idea of being present in the moment is a tough pill to swallow.  With the multiple, crushing blows I’ve had happen recently— health and otherwise—I figured it was time to more seriously explore more options.

Let’s face it, autoimmune disease and stress go hand-in-hand, and with life being hectic and chaotic enough, I know I don’t need to add more to the mix with my outrageous need to “do it all and perfectly” belief system.  Although there are specific mindfulness trainings and therapeutic practitioners available to guide us in exploring this practice more fully, I offer my laymen’s version of what little I’ve been doing on my own.

Mindfulness practices are exercises to focus on the present moment in a non-judgmental way.  Stemming from Buddhist spiritual beliefs, practicing mindfulness in the Western world falls more into the positive psychology realm as a form of emotional self-care.  By paying attention to my breathing and setting aside any thoughts that are not associated with my focus of the moment as they come into my mind, I practice paying attention.  By doing this, I not only can slow down my oxygen needs, my heart rate and calm down my system’s fight-or-flight reactions, but also give my entire body a loving time-out…all without having to sit in a lotus position.  There are three activities where I use this increased attention practice.  I’ll only talk about one for now:  focusing on sleep.

I have incorporated being more mindful into my night-time prep to help improve my sleep.  By focusing on what I do, why I do it and paying attention to the details like the sound of water, the sensations like washing my face or brushing my teeth, it is amazingly calming.  When the thoughts of what I didn’t get to on my to-do list show up, I simply give myself permission to deal with it “later” and get back to paying attention to preparing for bed.  I cannot tell you how this simple ritual has improved my quality of sleep.  My brain can go a mile a minute if I let it and it has often caused me to wake up or not sleep at all, creating more pain and negative moods the following morning.  During the three weeks I tried it out, I tracked 50% more hours of sound sleep, better mood mornings and more energy.  No extra time, no special equipment, done right in my own home while doing what I normally do anyway.  Just a shift in how I go about it made a world of difference.

In the Living Well with Chronic Conditions workshops (Oregon’s name for the Stanford University’s Chronic Disease Self-Management Program or CDSMP) available throughout Oregon, you can pick up some easy-to-do practices including breathing techniques, progressive relaxation, and guided imagery which all fall under a similar realm of wellness care.  They take some time to practice, but are so unbelievably easy and shown through research to be effective in improving health outcomes by connecting how our minds and bodies interact together.  With autoimmune conditions, that “auto” part is of particular importance to us and more studies are beginning to show that even though our immune system, as well as other automatic systems that keep our bodies functioning, acts without us having to think about it, we can influence them in ways to take better care of ourselves.

Practicing some mindfulness on positive activities that we do every day like preparing for bed (or simply scheduling a few minutes of taking some deep, focused cleansing breaths) can be the most loving thing you’ve done for yourself in quite awhile.  Try to bring more in-the-moment attention into your days, particularly as the holidays approach, and see if creating a mindful ritual can treat you to some healthy kindness.  You deserve it!

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It’s October here in New York and I can already feel the chill in my bones. Not a good feeling for anyone, but especially for fibromyalgia sufferers. The thing is – I know it’s going to be a long, cold, winter, but what am I supposed to do, curl up in the fetal position until May?

I can’t do that and neither should you. In the winter months it’s especially important for you to move.  You must keep that blood flowing and keep those muscles and joints loose. Now, exercise won’t be as easy or as comfortable as in the summer months, but it’s just as important to your fibromyalgia treatment. Your two biggest obstacles will be motivation and the cold weather.

So here are 3 quick tips to put you on the fast track to exercise and health this winter, you can do it!

Who has the motivation to exercise in the cold?  No one. The secret is to look past the winter. Don’t concentrate on the winter months.  Instead begin to prepare your body for the spring/summer that is coming. Where do you want to travel this coming summer? What activity have you wanted to do for a while?

Go to your calendar, mark the date, and exercise towards that goal.  As you exercise, picture that goal clearly in your head, focus on it, and believe it. Your mind will always look to accomplish what you truly believe in.

Your second road block will be the cold temperature. In the summer months I like to exercise in the early mornings. Winter – not so much. The winter mornings are always nice and chilly, not a good time to exercise. So instead I will get in my workouts after I have been up awhile and loosened up a bit. What usually helps? About a cup or two of Green tea. Not only will it warm you up but the little caffeine it has will give you the extra boost you need to get moving.

No sunlight? Don’t forget your vitamin D. Vitamin D is bountiful in the summer months as we soak it up from the sun. In the winter it’s a little harder to feel the sun. A good vitamin D supplement should help keep your immune system nice and strong. Exercise will not only keep your body loose this winter, it will also strengthen your immune system.  Fibromyalgia plus a cold is never a good thing.

Bonus Tip: It’s called the “Law of Expectation”.  It means focusing on expecting good things in your life. Forget about expecting more pain and fatigue. Make an effort to expect good health and a bright future.

As always, remain positive this winter and know that summer is just around the corner, so start planning…

Eric Suarez, CPT.

www.fibromyalgia-fitness.com

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Eric Suarez is a Certified Fitness Trainer and the owner of Valiant Personal Training in New York. He is the founder www.Fibromyalgia-Fitness.com and the author of new book -Fibromyalgia Fitness, 12 Weeks To A Healthier You!  He is offering a discount on his book to MLWT members and I will be posting more information about those details here very soon.

Since 2008, Eric has been helping fibromyalgia sufferers gain control over their symptoms by using simple functional exercises and healthy eating.  You can contact Eric directly at eric@fibromyalgia-fitness.com  and follow him on Twitter at @Fibro_Fitness.  Stop by, consider signing up for his e-newsletter and be sure to say hello.

There will be a video of the presentation available to watch, if you belong to the PDXFibro/CFS Ning community.  Cheryl also provides printable versions of her materials on her website, including the brochure she handed out at the meeting, and welcomes any questions here on the blog or to her directly.

There are two big concerns that sometimes become walls blocking us from considering applying for disability .  One worry is “How much will it cost me?” and the other is “Who should I get to represent me?“  Sometimes, these two questions can play off of each other, with the question of cost determining our decision about representation.  Local attorney, Cheryl Coon, offers us a quick summary targeting both of these questions.

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How do Social Security Representatives (Attorneys and non-Attorneys) get Paid?

When clients come to see me about their case, the first question is usually “Do I have a good case?”  The second question is “What will you charge to help me?”

The easiest question is, of course, the second one.  (Evaluating the strength of a case is a complex process that includes a claimant’s age, education, past work, and general credibility (which includes alcohol and drug use, criminal record).  Then there are the factors beyond the claimant himself – which judge is assigned to hear the case.)  Today’s column explores the myths about how representatives (reps), both attorney and non-attorney get paid.

Myth #1:  Only some attorneys and non-attorney reps offer to represent you for free until or unless you win.

Under the Social Security law and regulations, no-one can charge you for helping you with your case without first getting their fee approved by the Social Security Administration.

Myth #2:  Even if I lose, my attorney/non-attorney rep can charge me a lot of money.

What you pay depends on the agreement you made with your attorney/non-attorney rep.  Although it is widely believed that you can only be charged if you lose, in fact, neither the Social Security law nor the regulations say this.  As a practical matter, I do not know any attorneys who charge if they are unsuccessful in winning your case.  You can and will be asked to pay out-of-pocket expenses such as postage or the costs of a medical consultation, regardless of the outcome.

Myth #3:  Attorneys and non-Attorney reps get paid 25% of back benefits.

Attorneys and non-Attorney reps do get paid out of back benefits, but it’s the lesser of 25% or $6000.  The cap of $6000 always applies.  In a typical case, the fee is usually closer to $3000 or less.  In an SSI case, where the monthly amount is currently $674, a year of back benefits will result in a fee of $2000.

Myth #4:  Non-attorney reps charge less than Attorneys.

The law allows both attorneys and non-attorneys to charge the same amount.

Myth #5:  Anyone can be a non-attorney representative.

In order to insure the best possible representation, the Social Security Administration recently changed its rules for direct payment of non-attorney reps (a person can represent another without getting direct payment but it’s a powerful inducement to comply with the rules).

The law requires that non-attorney reps must:

• possess a bachelor’s degree from an accredited institution or possess equivalent qualifications;
• pass a written examination administered by the Social Security Administration, which tests knowledge of the relevant provisions of the Social Security Act and the most recent developments in agency and court decisions;
• obtain professional liability insurance sufficient to protect claimants in case of malpractice;
• pass a criminal background check; and
• complete continuing education courses.   (Effective August 29, 2011)

Myth #6:  You don’t need to understand how to do a federal court appeal in order to represent a social security disability claimant.

The Social Security disability process has multiple levels of administrative appeals, culminating in a hearing.  If you don’t win at hearing, all is not lost.  There is one more level of appeal, known as the Appeals Council.  After that, a claimant still has the option of going to federal district court to appeal.

Social security disability appeals to federal district court are common.  Many claimants succeed here who did not get favorable results at hearing.  Only attorneys are allowed to handle federal district court appeals.

A successful federal district court appeal depends upon the record that was created during the other levels of appeal, including: evidence submitted, examination of the claimant, cross-examination of the medical and vocational experts, and briefs.  So, while you don’t have to understand how to do a federal court appeal, it helps to have a representative who does, because he or she will approach the hearing record with that in mind right from the beginning.  Moreover, many attorneys will not bring district court appeals for claimants whom they did not represent during the hearings process, so it can be hard to find an attorney at that stage of the process.

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Cheryl Coon exclusively focuses her law practice on social security disability at all stages of the process, representing clients from Eugene, Oregon to Vancouver, Washington. She can be reached at ccoon@stc-law.com. Her law firm, Swanson Thomas and Coon, can be found at www.stc-law.com.  Cheryl’s blog offers case studies called “Can This Case Be Won” and I encourage you to read more about how this challenging process evolves.

Another resource Cheryl invites you to check into is the Ticket To Work Program , which works with the disability program incorporating employment opportunities without adversely affecting your disability rights.

One of the many things I’ve learned about the fibro community is that pain is a strong motivator.  With lupus, pain is sometimes present or may be more present in our days than we would like it to be, but not one of the key symptoms associated with our illness.  When someone lives with pain, it affects and changes us to seek out answers, information, resources, or alternatives at a level that we may not be naturally inclined to act.  As someone living with lupus and looking just fine, it is easy for me to decide not to talk about my health.  I can blend in without too much effort, keeping the internal chaos as invisible to myself as it is to the person standing in front of me.  However, I started out with a great deal of pain, before I knew that lupus was ravaging my kidneys, and I know that I showed my pain in the way I attempted to walk, reach, sit, smile…live.

I have been granted an opportunity to meet with many local people and have become part of the strong Fibro community here in the Portland Metro area.  If you are interested in meeting some of them, many are members of their Ning community that I have listed down in the right margin here under “MLWT Networks.”  I receive emails from locals living with fibro (as well as worldwide) on a regular basis, more so than from people living with lupus.  They speak about what they are looking for, what they are doing and how they are thriving in spite of their constant pain.  Many are open about asking for help, even if it is a difficult thing to accept at times.  They welcome visitors to their groups in order to ease the discomfort a new environment can create for many of us.  The emotional wall seems much more flexible for these individuals and, I suspect, their life with pain moves them to keep connected to something or someone with hopes to mute their body’s hurtful signals to any degree possible.

Although my mother lives with, what she has been told by her doctor, “secondary fibromyalgia”, I still don’t ‘get it’ and I know I truly won’t ever fully understand what she goes through.  I do, however, want to learn more (and hear more) about as many fibromyalgia experiences as possible, because I know I will be able to better appreciate the information I receive coming from the ‘trenches’ more than I will from a research article or medical/pharmaceutical presentation.  I want to be here for my mom in a way that will actually acknowledge her unique experience and offer her the support that she needs, when she needs it.

To honor those many people living with fibro that I have met through MLWT, I will be hosting two book discussions in a row that focus on living with Fibromyalgia.  The first book is FibroWHYalgia, by Sue Ingebretson, and our discussion on Shelfari.com will begin October 1st.  To kick things off, Sue has offered a free, signed copy for the lucky winner.  Even if you don’t get around to picking up a copy of the book right now, you can still join in on the discussion and we encourage you to do so.  It’s a chance to have a conversation that is guided by the topics covered in the book and an opportunity to perhaps learn about additional resources that may be of help in your own fibro experience.

Here’s how you can get the FREE copy of Sue’s book for the discussion:

• The contest will run from today September 15th until 11:59 PM Pacific time, Friday, September 23rd.
• The winner will be selected in a random drawing on September 24th. I want to keep this give-a-way free of strings requiring you to do anything to win.  However, since this is for our MLWT Book Discussion group, you will need to register a free account with Shelfari.com.  It is a great place to meet others reading the books you are and MLWT isn’t the only group.  Authors are also beginning to sponsor their own discussions, so it is worth the effort and a great way to keep up during the winter reading months.
• I would also like to add your email addresses to my new seasonal enewsletters (The MLWT Muse) that highlight wellness updates and resources to know more about, both local and outside ofOregon.
• I will contact the winner via email on September 24th, and they will have 48 hours to reply in order to claim their prize. (So be sure your email address is correct!) After 48 hours I will move on to another winner.

To enter this give-a-way:

1. Sign up for the MLWT Mailing list (directly to your right on the MLWT website) and leave a comment below letting me know you’re signed up.  Then,
2. Sign up for the MLWT Book Discussion Group on Shelfari.com .
3. If you are already registered for either or both of these, just leave a note in the comments here to enter your name!

Once the winner is chosen and has claimed their prize, Sue herself will contact them by email with her congratulations and get their mailing address for the prize copy.  The winner should receive it in time before the MLWT discussion really picks up.

Best wishes to you all for the win and I’m looking forward to the upcoming discussion!

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To learn more about Sue and her book, you can find her on Twitter (@SueInge), her Facebook fanpage , and her book’s website www.FibroWHYalgia.com .  She is also an MLWT Guest writer and you can enter her name in the search field on my website to bring up posts that she has contributed so far.

The urgent note I want to mention is that, although the group has moved to the Multnomah Arts Center , which I’ve had posted on the site.  This meeting had to be changed back to the old stomping grounds at the Beaverton Library on 12375 Southwest 5th Street . Due to road construction and the Farmer’s Market, the time has also been changed to begin at 1:30 with Andrea coming on at 2pm.

I hope to see you there~ trust me when I say this is a fun way to spend the afternoon.

Have you ever wondered how a lawyer analyzes a social security disability case and figures out whether a case can be won ?  How do the facts in a particular case add up — or not — to a winning case? 

I decided to create a column dedicated to sharing an inside look at how a lawyer takes the facts of an individual case and works with them to shape a winning argument for disability benefits.  In my column, I draw on my own cases with names and other facts changed to protect privacy to help explain how it works.  I call my column “Can This Case be Won?” because I believe that stories, especially those based on a true case, are the best way to help non-lawyers understand the legal process.  Let me know what you think!  And check it out at my social security disability blog .

Warm regards,

Cheryl

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Cheryl Coon exclusively focuses her law practice on social security disability at all stages of the process, representing clients from Eugene, Oregon to Vancouver, Washington. She can be reached at ccoon@stc-law.com. Her law firm, Swanson Thomas and Coon, can be found at www.stc-law.com.

Another option is to participate in a Portland-area focus group either this week or early next week~ they will only be in town for these interviews for a few more days.  Remember that the focus is on using naturopathic treatments that you may have included within your regular conventional treatment, such as acupuncture and Chinese medicine. I am coordinating the local focus group for them, so please call me at 503-616-4856 or email me at maria@mylifeworkstoday.com to register asap.

This is a wonderful opportunity to help bring awareness to our medical community that thinking outside the box offers more options for us in taking care of ourselves.

******Update:  We have scheduled a date and time for this focus group~ Thursday, July 7th at Beaverton Library.  The time frame is from 1-3pm, but there is opportunity to still be interviewed until July 9th.  Refreshments and a Starbucks gifit card will be offered for focus group participants.  We have a couple of spots left~it’s simply you telling the researchers about your use of naturopathic treatments and what part they’ve played in your wellness.

I am pleased to introduce author and pain archeologist, Sue Ingebretson, as our guest for today.  You may already know her from her website Rebuilding Wellness and/or from her book, FibroWHYalgia . You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook.  She lives with Fibromyalgia and works diligently in creating self-care resources to address the many challenges (and oppportunities) living with fibro can present.

With today being a big day in building awareness for Fibromyalgia, I asked her for her thoughts on a pet peeve of mine, where we in the health and wellness arenas can sometimes fall into focusing so much on managing illness that we can actually derail building wellness.  Please welcome Sue and learn a little more about what she has to say about being your own best coach in pursuing healthful possibilities.

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How Do YOU Manage Your Chronic Condition?

As a member of the FibroFix Team, I helped to create a free eBook that can be downloaded here. In this book, The Top 5 Health Mistakes YOU May Be Making Right Now! I listed one of the mistakes as this:

“Managing your illness rather than your wellness”

Do you see this as a problem for you?

In a nutshell, I pointed out that managers – or coaches — have a great effect on their teams based on their words. Most coaches uses inspirational language – phrases such as: See the finish line in your mind as you move forward. 

That makes sense, doesn’t it? Encouragements from others can really help us stay on track. It sharpens our focus and bolsters our motivation to reach our goals.  But what if the language from our coaches is negative? What if a coach said this to a member of his or her team: Make sure you don’t trip and fall like you did the last time.

How do you think a phrase like that would damage a person’s motivation, or worse, their self-worth?

The real problem is that we are often our own worst “coaches or managers” when it comes to life planning and setting positive goals for ourselves. A lifetime of experiences has taught us to think more negatively than positively. Many call this, “just being realistic.”

I don’t agree. Is it “realistic” to set intentions that may not ever come true? I know a lot of chronically ill people in my local area support group who think this way. They don’t commit to events or meetings because they might have a flare that day. They retrofit their homes, cars, workplaces with accommodations for future disability issues. They take pharmaceuticals that are intended for “the bad times” now so that if a crisis hits, they’re ready.

Is that realistic or pessimistic?

What if you turned that thinking around? Consider PLANNING for success and improved health. Coach yourself into positive thoughts such as:

My body is growing stronger every day

I see great improvement in my energy levels as I take care of myself 

Putting my self care needs FIRST, helps me to prioritize everything else

When it comes to self care and keeping a positive attitude, I’m often asked which comes first. The best thing is that it doesn’t matter! A positive attitude helps to motivate you to take care of yourself and taking care of yourself helps to foster a positive attitude. In all scenarios — YOU win! 

Try these basic and simple self care methods: 

• Move the body in a healthy way every day. Whether it’s walking, swimming, gardening, dancing, etc., moving your body each and every day is vital. Move within your own capabilities respecting any personal limited mobility issues. 

• Drink plenty of pure, clean water (that doesn’t mean water from the tap). 

• Include plenty of nutrient-dense, fresh veggies in your meals every day. 



• Breathe deeply – taking deep belly breaths – at any sign of negativity, anxiety, or worry.

• Create a bed-time routine of turning off TV’s, radios, etc. and write in a gratitude journal, read a good book, or take a warm bath. Whatever your routine is, make sure you stick to it and prepare yourself (mind and body) for a night of restful and restorative sleep. 



Applying just a few, simple self care activities into your daily life can have profound benefits! 

If you’re in the Midwest, The Fibromyalgia Coalition offers an amazing conference each year in May. Click on the 2011 Conference link for more details.  If you’d like an in-depth and personal educational series about healing from chronic illness (not just for those with fibro) that you can participate in from your own home, view the details of the FibroFix System here.

There’s always more to learn, so tune in to educational opportunities that meet your needs. Set your intentions for a positive and healthy future!

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Sue’s book,  FibroWHYalgia will be our first MLWT Book group pick beginning this Fall.  Here is a little more about it: 

When Susan Ingebretson found her health spiraling out of control, she wanted to know why. Her tenacious research into the causes of chronic illness led her through a maze of traditional and nontraditional healing methods. Ingebretson eventually connected the dots and found wellness. FibroWHYalgia is a half diary/half tutorial guide that exposes the facts, fibs, and fairytales of failing health and offers practical solutions. Included are detailed descriptions for making nutritional, fitness, and stress-relieving lifestyle changes.

Susan Ingebretson invites anyone with chronic illness to come down from the spectator seats and participate in restored health.

More about Sue~ 

Ingebretson was featured in the March 2011 issue of FIRST for Women magazine and made several guest appearances on the nationally syndicated health TV program, Know the Cause! Her writing has appeared in the National Fibromyalgia Association (NFA) print magazine, FibromyalgiaAWARE, and the Fibromyalgia Coalition International’s magazine, Fibromyalgia Alternative News. Ingebretson is a contributing author to, The Gratitude Book Project: Celebrating 365 Days of Gratitude and the eBook Fibromyalgia Insider Secrets: Top 12 Experts. She has also authored many books for Playbooks, Inc., a children’s publisher of instructional classroom books. Her book, Fabulous Food Detectives, teaches students to read food labels and discern the difference between whole and packaged foods. 

Ingebretson posts news and encouragements geared to promote positive lifestyle changes and healthy living.